For about a year and a half now I have eliminated the word "sorry" out of my vocabulary. In this word elimination diet, I have noticed more and more how and when I used the word and realized that it was just a filler to say what I really meant.
Every time I would say "Im sorry" , it felt like I was apologizing for myself repeatedly, leaving a feeling of inadequacy inside me. During the beginning stages of this word elimination, there was a pause when I was about to utter "sorry" and not know what to do instead.
I noticed a shift inside me more and more and felt less sorry for myself, less sorry for my actions, and more of a realist of my actions and behavior.
The challenge is, what words fill in the void left from this word removal? Acknowledgement and ownership. below are examples of what it looks like.
-I totally blew you off by not calling you back which is disrespectful to you.
-of course you would be mad! I changed plans at the last minute without telling you which is so unfair.
- I totally bumped into to you and made a huge frikkin mess!
-of course your mad! I hit your car and made a huge dent in it which is frustrating and maddening because its expensive.
-of course you'd be pissed, makes total sense, my dog just took a shit on your property and I didn't pick it up, how disrespectful of me.
-It makes sense why you would feel ignored becasue I am totally ignoring your emails and not responding to you which is disrespectful to you.
-I said mean and hurtful things which makes sense why you wouldnt trust me or want to talk to me
-WOW! I totally messed that up!!